Have you got the comfortable ＂social consciousness＂？

City Hot News reported that after "social phobia" and "social cow disease", a new word in social series-"social self-consciousness" became popular, and was praised by netizens as the most comfortable and polite group of people in social activities.

What is "social consciousness"? According to the reporter’s inquiry, it actually means that when getting along with others, the words and actions are just right, and there is proper limit, which does not cause trouble to others.

Performance 1: Don’t disturb others in public.

Su Ming, a 28-year-old logistics worker, lives in Dashiba. She feels that she belongs to the "social self-consciousness" group. The most important point is the behavior in public.

Su Ming, for example, if he goes to see a movie or a concert, his mobile phone will be turned to mute, and he will not take it out all the time in the middle, which will affect the viewing experience of others; In addition, when you take public transportation, you won’t play videos outside, and you will reply to the message first, because direct phone calls are likely to disturb other passengers; And when you take the elevator, you will never take out the food with strong smell, such as steamed stuffed bun and baked wheat cake …

Su Ming believes that the so-called "social consciousness" is actually a small move, but it can reduce the disturbance to others.

Performance 2: The promised things must be fulfilled.

Zhou Yi, a 30-year-old marketing worker, believes that fulfilling promises is the foundation of social consciousness.

Zhou Yi said that he had some friends who were "socially inept". Although they were good at getting along with others, they were even more responsible for the party. However, there is a problem that talking and doing things are not reliable, and the promised things are forgotten after they are finished. "Such people are just impromptu friendships, and it is difficult for people to trust and make friends."

Zhou Yi said that if we look at the friends who have really settled down around us, we must keep our words, and the promised things will be fulfilled and honored. "Adult communication, security and trust are the most important things."

Performance 3: Don’t force questions and listen when chatting.

Miss Jiang is a new media editor. She is 27 years old and single. She believes that "socially conscious" people must be able to chat.

Every time she attends a family dinner or a class reunion, someone always brings the topic to "older young women" and feels uncomfortable all over.

For example, when I went back to my hometown on National Day this year, several aunts and aunts at home chatted and began to analyze sentence by sentence why Miss Jiang was single for so many years. Some say that Miss Jiang’s personality is too strong, some say that Miss Jiang lacks femininity, and some say that Miss Jiang’s circle is too small …

"That kind of feeling is like a thorn in the back, like a sore throat, like sitting on pins and needles." Miss Jiang believes that "socially conscious" people should be like themselves. If they touch on topics that the other party doesn’t want to talk about, they should avoid them in time. In addition, you should also know how to listen and not interrupt others.

Performance 4: The private sector should also be self-disciplined.

Jia Jia, a 31-year-old parenting blogger, feels that social consciousness is not limited to leaving home. Even when you are at home, you should pay attention and be conscious.

For example, the children upstairs always like to beat the ball or jump rope at home, which brings great trouble to Jiajia and her family. Another example is a neighbor on the same floor. Shoe cabinets, bicycles and trolleys are all thrown in the corridor, which not only occupies space, but also affects aesthetics.

Jia Jia said, including getting along with family members, roommates and others, we should also maintain social consciousness, control our emotions, respect each other’s living habits, and at the same time, don’t leave the worst temper to the closest relatives.

Netizen voice: I hope more and more people have "social consciousness"

@ Pygmalion: If social consciousness, social phobia and social arrogance are on the same axis. Social phobia will be on the far left, social arrogance will be on the far right, and social consciousness will be in the middle. They are not as speechless as social fears, nor as emmm…… as social cows … All in all, people with social consciousness will feel more comfortable getting along with them than social fears and social cows.

@ Yi Jia said: If more people can have social consciousness, don’t crowd out other people’s public space. Then our world may reduce many unnecessary quarrels and irritability.

@ 京京京京: Sometimes you should clearly tell others your boundaries, otherwise you will depend on yourself.

@ Lele: No matter how good the relationship is, you should be socially conscious. For example, I once had a best friend, who always took advantage of me financially. I was never invited to dinner and came to my house to help myself. Over time, I alienated her.

@ Fu Kang ‘ai Entertainment: In order to praise those who consciously abide by social etiquette, behave themselves and be full of proper limit, the glorious title of "social consciousness disorder" came into being quietly.

In fact, in the final analysis, "social self-consciousness" is a sense of proper limit and boundary in communication with people. Some people have a strong sense of boundary and will not infringe on others’ boundaries; Some people have no sense of boundaries at all, and they are ready to jump in your boundaries.

In addition to strangers in public places, we will also be violated by some acquaintances in our daily life, such as questioning care, asking for help without asking, helping without telling, and so on. Everyone needs to pay attention to how to grasp the sense of proportion and establish a sense of boundary in communication with others.

Comments: "Social consciousness" can also be cultivated.

Tan Gangqiang, executive director of Chongqing Social Psychology Association: In fact, "social consciousness" is not only the embodiment of education and quality, but also the support of emotional intelligence and social wisdom. Even need to rely on some acquired efforts to develop-

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Know yourself. First of all, we must be "socially conscious", and we must be self-aware of our own language and behavior, and understand whether our words and deeds will cause trouble to others.

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Be self-disciplined Know how to control your own behavior, and don’t make behaviors that affect others or the public because you are comfortable for a while.

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Be kind. People who are kind and well-intentioned will care about the emotions of others, will not say hurtful words, and will do harm to others.

Wang Wei, Chief Reporter of Urban Hot News-Xiang Yu

Original title: Have you got the comfortable "social consciousness"?

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